Dealing Positively With the Loss of the Loved Ones
Robert Elias Najemy
Following are some beliefs or thought-forms, which can
be very supportive in our effort to cope with the departure of a loved one.
If you find any of these helpful, write them down with large letters and
place them where you can see them often. Feel free to alter them so that they
apply more appropriately to your own specific needs. You could also make a
cassette with such messages to play while in deep relaxation or as you fall
asleep. Share these thoughts with others.
1. I am an eternal soul and
have the power to live an abundant and meaningful life. All is within me. I
feel secure, protected and tranquil.
2. My loved one is an eternal,
immortal soul who continues to live in another dimension more beautiful than
the one in which I currently exist.
3. Since my loved one is very well
and far closer to his or her true divine nature, I can be glad for him/her
and can give joy to myself and to those around me.
happens according to wise and just divine laws which give us the lessons we
need for our spiritual evolution. For some reason, it was best for my loved
one to move on to another level of existence and for me continue on here,
without him or her.
5. Everyone on this earth has lost loved ones. This
is a natural and universal aspect of material existence.
departure of the soul from the restrictions of the temporary physical body is
a beautiful liberation from a very limited incarnated state.
7. The loss
of my loved one is a great opportunity for spiritual development through the
cultivation of inner power, tranquility, security
8. I accept the perfection of the Divine Laws,
and I release God, myself and all others for any responsibility for what is
happening to me.
9. My loved one would want me to be happy and to
continue my life creatively and beautifully.
10. I am a pure divine
being and deserve unconditional love. I am acceptable, lovable and
interesting as I am.
11. The loss of a loved one is not related to guilt
or punishment but, is instead, a great opportunity for spiritual development
and inner growth.
12. No one can be responsible for someone elseís death.
Each soul has selected the hour and the place when he or she will leave.
Others are simply the instruments we use for our departure.
13. I can,
even now, correct my relationship with my loved one with inner communication
14. I open myself to my brothers and sisters in the family of
humanity who are now sharing this planet. My loved one would want me to do
15. I share with others my sorrow and joy.
16. I find meaning
in myself and my life by relating, serving, creating and evolving.
Life is a divine gift and it is my duty to use it to benefit myself
18. Today, 40,000 parents have lost their children.
Tomorrow, another 40.000 parents will lose their children. I am not alone in
pain. Departure from the physical body is a natural part of life on
19. There is one universal life force, expressing itself through
all beings. The same consciousness that expressed itself through my loved one
is now expressing itself through every being around me. When loving and
offering to others, I love and offer to him / her.
Steps We Can Take
1. We can study the spiritual truths related to the life and death
and the relationship between the soul and the body.
2. We can express
our feelings openly to those who can respect and understand them, perhaps to
a priest, minister, psychologist, spiritual teacher or a good
3. We can pray for our loved onesí development and growth as
souls on the dimensions where they are now existing. We can light a candle
for them as frequently as we feel the need, sending them light, energy and
4. We will gradually need to free ourselves from excessive
concentration on those who have left this plane and pay more attention to
those who are here with us. It might be best eventually to remove belongings
that remind us of him or her. We can give them to charity or to those who
need them or would appreciate them.
5. We can occupy ourselves with
meaningful activities such as: a. Service b. Creativity c. Evolution -
Self knowledge d. Conscious Love Relationships
6. We need to be
patient with ourselves and those around us. Overcoming such a shock usually
7. We need to cultivate faith in the Divine and in
8. We can join a group of people dedicated to the process of
growth where we can mutually support each other in this